Raising Resilience Daily

A little bit heavier today, but hey, this blog is a real life. Sometimes that life is freaking heavy…

Some days, life hands you a moment that stops you in your tracks — a moment that snaps everything into perspective so sharply it almost stings.

This week, a friend’s husband is undergoing his fourth brain surgery in six weeks. Ten hours under the hands of a surgeon. Ten hours of waiting, hoping, praying, and refreshing a phone for the occasional text update. Ten hours of uncertainty that makes time feel like it’s standing still.

And meanwhile, I’m over here stressing about job decisions, juggling family schedules, and trying to keep holiday chaos from swallowing me whole.

It’s not that my stress isn’t real. It is. Yours is too. We’re allowed to feel overwhelmed by the weight we’re carrying — even when someone else is carrying something heavier. But sometimes life hands you a moment of perspective so powerful it feels like a gentle smack to the face. A reminder that while your load is valid, it’s also survivable.

Because if I could trade every work worry, every calendar conflict, every ounce of holiday overwhelm to guarantee my friend’s husband walks out of that operating room safely, I would do it ten times over.

This Isn’t About Comparison — It’s About Clarity

Perspective isn’t meant to minimize our feelings. It’s meant to reframe them.

It’s the shift from “everything is falling apart” to “I can handle this — and here’s why.”

It’s the realization that resilience isn’t built in the easy seasons. It’s built in the moments when life forces you to zoom out and remember what truly matters.

It’s built when you catch yourself spiraling about something small, pause, and breathe in gratitude for the fact that your biggest problem today is something you can recover from.

Resilience Lives in the Recalibration

When we widen the lens, we don’t erase our struggles — we right‑size them.

We remember that:

• We’ve survived harder days than the one we’re in.
• We can carry more than we think.
• We can choose what deserves our energy.
• We can honor our feelings without letting them consume us.

And sometimes, perspective is the very thing that strengthens our resilience. It reminds us that life is fragile, time is precious, and most of the things we’re losing sleep over won’t matter in five years — or even five days.

Holding Space for Both

So today, I’m holding space for two truths:

• I’m overwhelmed.
• I’m also incredibly lucky that my overwhelm is the kind I can navigate.

And I’m holding space for my friend, whose world is paused in a way mine isn’t.

If you’re reading this and feeling stretched thin, you’re not wrong for feeling that way. But maybe — just maybe — a little perspective can help you breathe deeper, stand taller, and remember your own strength.

Resilience isn’t about being unshakeable.
It’s about remembering what’s worth being shaken by.

Raising leaders, chasing goals, and occasionally losing my mind.